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The 2018 Desire Map Planners are HERE!

"small, deliberate actions inspire by your true desires create a life you love." Danielle Laporte

One of the most important questions you can ask yourself is, "How do I stay accountable to my desires and dreams?" 

It was the question that fueled a lot of big change and ailment for me a few years back. That question paired with a system to work with -- has really worked for me. Enter the Desire Map Planner. I had the OG black planner a few years back and I'm happy to say I'm on the launch team for the 2018 planners and THEY ARE FREAKIN' FANTASTIC. 

MY FAVORITE FEATURES

  1. It's SEXY AF! Design matters. Team D get's that. No matter your style there is something that will inspire you even before you open it. It's like a beacon looking all sexy - asking you to remember what turns you ON.
  2. No matter if you need a daily or weekly planner you are covered. I will be working with the daily for 2018.
  3. It feels strong enough to hold my dreams. That may sound strange but I have held other planners in my hand and they felt flimsy. But the weight and feel is superb. 
  4. Tabs are key for me. I love being able to easily open to the month and get an overview.
  5. A fortune cookie tab of the day. That's what I call it anyway. On each day their is a small tab that you can tear off with words like vibrant or impactful. A little piece of take-away magic that you can collect in a jar and pull for inspiration. Or hide in the pocket of your lover. Or leave in library books. It feels like a little daily piece of magic. 

Wanna win a monthly Desire Map Planner? 

I'll be doing a giveaway on my Instagram and all the details will be posted on 7/14. 

Are you ready to feel the way you want to feel? 

I would be honored if you ordered your planner through my special link. 

Click here to SHOP PLANNERS 

Stay tuned for more planner ideas, a video review, and my special giveaway. Let's make 2018 FEEL AMAZING!

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THINGS I NO LONGER DO

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THINGS I NO LONGER DO

INSTAGRAM has become a ritual I look forward to in the morning. First morning pages. Quiet reflection. Meditation. Then hot tea and my morning Insta posts. I love that I have effectively curated a sea of inspiration. My feed literally FEEDS ME. It's soul food. 

TIP: If you social media is a hot mess. Folks arguing. Negative Nancy BS. Do some clean up. Unfollow. Delete. Hide. Move on.

I stumbled upon a post. A list of things no longer done by a wonderful women I followed - Laura Mckowen. Her list. THINGS I NO LONGER DO: Put splenda in coffee, apologize for taking up space, talk to men who make me feel small, chase other people's men, wear underwear (bra sometimes), alcohol or drugs, turn the lights off before sex, let my mail stack up, wait to tell people I love them, say YES when I mean NO, almost anything that follows, "I should", and justify my life decisions. I MEAN, can I get an amen!

Immediately I started mentally creating a list and next thing I know I'm creating a post about what I no longer do. I challenged a bunch of women I know to do the same, and some even took me up on my offer. (See pics and more of my list below.)

But something else happened. People resonated BIG TIME. The act of taking a moment to consider what they no longer did or accepted. It's like drawing a line in the sand. Boundaries are as popular as ever. And rightfully so! We let them go for so long in the name of being loved. But that didn't work. Even a river needs boundaries to flow. 

I got messages and tagged on posts and it all felt very timely and beautiful to read. My list even made me even more accountable to what I said I was no longer doing. I cleaned up a situation where I felt I may be holding a grudge. I LET IT GO, cause I NO longer hold grudges, right? I declared something and I FORCED MYSELF A LITTLE TO BE IN ALIGNMENT with what I declared online. 

So you. Yes you... reading this. What do you no longer do? Boldly claim it. Perfection is never required. Just intent. 

Tag me using #TGMNOLONGER or drop me a line. I want to dance in your new found NO LONGERS!

MY LIST CONTINUED...

  1. Treat others as they treat me. I treat YOU LIKE I TREAT ME. With respect, honesty, communication and love. 
  2. Bargain for love.
  3. Waste time counting calories.
  4. Deny my sexuality.
  5. Believe anything I see on TELL-LIE-VISION (TV)
  6. Explain my lifestyle choices to people. Especially people who knew me growing up as SDA. 

 

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Embrace :: a celebration of women's bodies

JOIN THE GIRLFRIEND MANIFESTO FOR A CELEBRATION OF WOMEN'S BODIES

J U N E   2 5 // THE OM ROOM, CHATTANOOGA // EMBRACE: a celebration of women's bodies

Come view snippets of the documentary Embrace as well as hear a few women's stories about their relationship with their bodies. There will be time for an open forum sharing conversation about our bodies and including with admission -- Every woman will have a chance to bare as much as she would like in a *stripped down photoshoot at the end of the evening. (*Digital photos will be delivered after the event)

THE FINE PRINT:

  • June 25th from 1:30 - 4:30 pm at The OM ROOM (Map provided below + on ticketing site)
  • $25 dollar tickets includes photoshoot
  • Max 25 Spots - Sign up today. We will sell out. CLICK HERE!
  • For the photoshoot bring something black that shows off your beautiful body.

Photography will be done by Jaya of Boss and Rebel Studio. Check out her beautiful work below.

MAP (Click on the red dot for directional help)

 

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Sedona :: PAST LIVES

Most faith traditions including the early Christians believed in some type of reincarnation or past lives. For a belief to be so dominant it is something I heard almost nothing about until I started digging, and remembering.

The truth is a tricky lover. Not really. Actually she is straight forward and that is what puzzles so many people. I believe in universal truths and I have seen people be impacted by things they didn't even believe in. Like past lives. Illnesses gone after a past life regression. Relief from emotional patterns. The truth is not dependent on your belief. It just is. 

Dr. Brian Weiss (author of Many Lives, Many Masters) sealed the deal for me. Not sure if it was because he was sitting on Oprah's couch talking about how he came to believe, or if it was just the final cherry on top of many years of reading, remembering, and knowing that I have been here before and done this many MANY times. 

So when the opportunity arose for me to be able to go to *Sedona (had been on my travel/adventure list for a long time) to spend a weekend in the home of Regina Meredith Gaia TV host, and a woman I deeply admire for a weekend exploring past lives...I WAS ALL THE WAY IN.

I had read many books on past lives. Done a guided regression or two, or three, or a dozen on my own. Had some memory recall but mostly allowing myself to believe in this framework for life made so many other things make sense. Like my UBER vivid dream life, soul family recognition, and the phenomenon of deja vu - I knew places that I had never been before. 

As we gathered for the first night - Twelve "strangers" about to dive deep with the amazing guidance of Regina. We spent the first night doing a powerful mediation where we remembered what it felt like to be childlike and free and how much we have deviated from that innocence, power, and creativity. One of the things I love about Regina is that she is in no way putting her head in the sand and only covering the light side of spirituality and conscious transformation. She covers truthful topics that speak to the darkness - some may call it conspiracy but she is as astute and fact based as she is intuitive and connected. If you only stay in the light you cannot go past that point. Going down the rabbit hole of possibility has so many gifts - the biggest of which is seeing life in a new way. 

And gifts we all did receive. The second day we spent more time in meditation and together we went on guided group past life regression.  During the sharing on the second day I was blown away by how vivid and real the memories of my fellow journeyers were. We laughed, and cried, and had a million follow up questions. My memories were more subtle and I remembered being non physical but being able to soar on the wings of birds, or glide underwater with dolphins, and I found myself being a small boy with a gentle big guardian holding my hand. The evening end with a big viseral breakthrough when Regina brought in a special guest with a special talents. This I will leave in the circle - but I will say I got a reading and it made so many things in this lifetime click into place and make sense. 

I was able to free a lot of energy up by going on this exploration into the inner realms of consciousness and memory. I am a multi-dimensional being who has choosen to incarnate over and over again in assistance of consciousness and humanity. It was so powerful to come deeper into these knowings with Sedona as a background, guide, and very real alive energy. 

RESOURCES FOR PAST LIVE RESEARCH

Books: Many Lives, Many Masters , Tibetan Book of the Dead

Talks: Denise Linn on the Hay House World Summit (Listen now before the playback expires)

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The School of Intuition

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The School of Intuition

Intuition is a direct line to your heart.

It's a gentle feeling. It will guide you to your

deepest desires, if you learn how to listen.

It's also a mystery to many. 

Join me and Victoria Albina, FNP-c, MPH, Integrative Health Nurse Practitioner and Life Coach at Victoria Albina Health & Wellness for a course in learning to listen to your most treasured guide. Your very own intuition. Sign up below to be the first to know when the course is open.

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a (true) love story

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a (true) love story

my most personal share...yet. i have been on quite a journey with how much to reveal and my soul tends towards...you must do the thing you think you cannot do! 

my intention was to share this on 2/22 so i could be laid bare with the energies of moving forward. i finished the edit last night at near 1 am. so today i will share with you. my (true) love story.

 

head on over to youtube to watch this week episode. share with a friend who is struggling with something they may to share about their relationship. 

 

 

 

ps- thank you to my friends, family, and loved ones. and mostly you zachary... for supporting my expression & me. 

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Driving Matters Contest // VOTE FOR ME

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Driving Matters Contest // VOTE FOR ME

Dear Friends,

I wrote an essay about a "DRIVE THAT MATTERS", and I was picked as a finalist by Inc. Magazine. Up for grabs is a brand spankin' new Maxda CX9 with hopefully my name on it. 

I WILL NEED YOUR VOTE. 

It's really quite simple - head over to the contest page and vote for me DAILY. The contest runs from February 1st - 12th. The rules are limit of (1) vote per person/e-mail address per day during public voting period. If you are feeling really generous you can also leave a comment with a personal testimony for me. It can only help!

THANK YOU FRIENDS!

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Spiritual Workout Buddy

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Spiritual Workout Buddy

"I BE UP IN THE GYM JUST WORKING ON MY FITNESS. - FERGIE"

This week on Holy Rebellion I share my idea about spiritual workouts and how to stay accountable. Looking for the video + FREEBIE > Click Here

 

 

 

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dear human

dear human,


You've got it all wrong.
You didn't come here to master unconditional love. This is where you came from and where you'll return.
You came here to learn personal love.
Universal love.
Messy love.
Sweaty Love.
Crazy love.
Broken love.
Whole love.
Infused with divinity....

Want more Holy Rebellion? Head over to www.thegirlfriendmanifesto.com/holyrebellion

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ONE

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ONE

Welcome to the UNIVERSAL one year, otherwise known as 2017. 

Year: 2017
Universal Energy for 2017: 2 + 0 + 1 + 7 = 10 = 1

A UNIVERSAL ‘1’ Year represents the start of a fresh new cycle – a new 9 year cycle of creativity, learning and growth.

A UNIVERSAL ‘1’ Year is a time to plant the seeds of intention for the forthcoming cycle – your deepest heartfelt desires, dreams and visions for every area of your life – relationships, health, finances, career, lifestyle, spirituality etc

The intentions & foundations you set in place during 2017 (preferably early in 2017), mold the field of potentiality and set the tone & flow of energy within your life over the forthcoming 9 years.

The following words resonate to the number ‘10’ (and of course breakdown to be a ‘1’) and these words help to paint a picture of what 2017 is all about:

Aloha = 10
Blissful = 10
DNA = 10
Spirit = 10
Goddess = 10
Pioneer = 10
Union = 10
Discipline = 10
Vitality = 10
Namaste = 10
Archangel Haniel = 10 (Essence of Angels® – Law of Rhythm)

The above is an excerpt from an article on Universal Life Tools.

1 is not the loneliest number! 

In fact it is with a single action that life is transformed.

1 sperm mixes with 1 egg and LIFE is created.

So in light of this 1 universal year here are a list of single things that can radically transform your life if applied.

  • Always do your best. (Thanks Don Miguel Ruiz)
  • Get a spiritual workout buddy. (More on this soon)
  • Drink more water.
  • Pledge to give back on every penny you make.
  • Talk to more strangers.
  • Ask people what they love.
  • Eat more greens.
  • Do the thing that scares you.
  • Pull an oracle card a day.
  • Sage yo'self
  • Ask you soul what it desires?
  • Meditate daily
  • Commit to a love affair with yourself
  • Dance more
  • Write it down
  • Take deep breaths
  • Eat heart healthy
  • Self pleasure more
  • Adopt a animal from a rescue
  • MOVE
  • Listen more then you speak
  • Ask questions?
  • Walk barefoot on the earth
  • Gaze at the sun
  • Take hot baths
  • Hire a coach
  • Invest in yourself
  • Help a friend
  • Forgive everyone everyday

 

 

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Travel Survey // Your Expertise Needed

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Travel Survey // Your Expertise Needed

But we don’t need more gimmicks and gadgets; all we need do is reimagine the way we travel. If we truly want to know the secret of soulful travel, we need to believe that there is something sacred waiting to be discovered in virtually every journey.
— Phil Cousineau

Dear Fellow Travelers,

Travel for me is like taking a long deep inhale & exhale. I come alive on the road. I love Airports and flying. I love new places and people. For the past few years I have been collecting soulful places to visit on Pinterest, in my journals, and from suggestions from fellow travelers.

I have decided to compile a guidebook of spiritual travel for people just like us who have wanderlust and who enjoy going on pilgrimages to sacred sites, magical locations, and off the beaten path destinations.  To finish the guidebook I am looking for more stories, pictures, and places on YOUR list.

To participate in the simple survey (I am giving away some loot -$50- once I get 25 surveys completed): https://ayeshaophelia.typeform.com/to/ffxAfT

To learn a wee bit more go: http://www.thegirlfriendmanifesto.com/theexistentialtraveler

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HOLY REBELLION


I wrote down two words recently...holy and rebellion. I had been using both of them excessively this year.  But not yet in union.

Rebellion to explain the plethora of ways we as women, and as a society can take our power back. I experienced on a deep level what that means and how I can be a part of something bigger than myself using the vehicle (my body and voice) that I was loaned at birth. 


Rebellion is embracing the power of your ordained and holy spiritual gifts. (I am only just beginning to grasp how vast this is. The reality of it would blow any Sci-Fi movie out of the water!)


Rebellion is self love.
Rebellion is compassion.
Rebellion is cooperation.
Rebellion is reaching across lines of race, gender, and any perceived differences to go, "Oh, yeah we all have hearts that beat, and hurt, and love."
Rebellion is desire.
Rebellion is PUSSY. (Thanks @mamagena)
Rebellion is becoming who you are in a world where you are constantly being asked to be something other then that.
Rebellion is questioning. 
The Rebellion never ends.

& the word holy. Holiness is not the stuffy word most of us grew up thinking it was.

Holiness has a fowl mouth.
Holiness makes mistakes.
Holiness get horny.
Holiness has doubts.
Holiness is hungry for experiences.
Holiness is the deepest truth of who we are at every moment.
Holiness is a never ending cloque of light that has and will always be with you.
In union holy rebellion is the path towards limitlessness.
In union holy rebellion is an expression of what it means to be human and holy.
In union holy rebellion is for those who are committed to doing the "hard and holy things"

In union HOLY REBELLION is a multi-media series I will introduce to this delicious community and the world on 1-11-17.
 

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end of a chapter.

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end of a chapter.

We are all just walking each other home. 

When I see this quote I think of all the people who have walked me home at different times in my life. I remember my best friend when I was 11 years old. We were the only black girls at a totally white school. We bonded over our love of R&B, our mutual crush Mikey, and our shared experience as outsiders even amongst friends. Then my best friend in high school was a fun loving odd bird who drove a vintage car and would do anything for a laugh. She taught me about rebellion and being yourself. As I grew each friend opened a world inside of me and walked me home once again to myself.

When me and Shanda began this journey together about 3 years ago we were walking each other home to future version of ourselves. We rode the waves of creation together, the sparks that friends create as they grow, shift, and change. We did all of it with communication, grace, and understanding. Was every step easy. Far from it. Is anything worth while ever easy? But we did it hand in hand. This Fall we decided to end our walk together with TGM. We had both seen it as far as it could go together. At least with the agreements we had in place when I invited Shanda to go on this adventure in creation and sisterhood with me. What I know for sure is that I could not have done it without the help of Shanda. That we both agreed it was time for a shift. Shanda handed me back the TGM torch and onward I march. Bigger, bolder, brighter, and ready to serve the sisterhood.

You will notice a makeover to the site in 2017 to reflect this change. The language will stay as WE because we did build a sisterhood of hundreds of women. Many of who have hand written letters and sent emails letting us know that they are touched by the space we have created. What more could we ask for? It's not the end of the road for our sisterhood or Shanda appearing on the blog or in person at one of gatherings next year. When a chapter ends, a new one starts.

XO,

Ayesha Ophelia

 

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Public Service Announcement

Allow me to reintroduce myself.

5 of the best words, if you ask me? 

The idea that we are ever evolving, that we will be several different people within the span of a lifetime really appeals to me. It always has. I scan back over my life in a slow meticulous fashion often, but especially so around my birthday. This year on my birthday I had a secret to share.

My new name. Ayesha Ophelia.  

My mom's middle name was Ophelia. I didn't get how awesome that name was until my mom was no longer alive. But the depth of the name came pressing into my life shortly after she transitioned. I wanted to name everything after her. A business. My next animal...etc, etc. Until I realized slowly and then all at once...I would take her middle name as my last name.

The name came at the perfect time.

I myself was going through a giant transition. More accurately, many transitions - and all at once! I for the first time really looked in the mirror and didn't recognize myself...and I loved it, and it scared the shit out of me - and I hated it all at once. 

But great change always brings great gifts. I KNOW that now more than ever. I was being molded into this new person, this new name...that embodies all the lessons, heartache, laughter, pain, joy, sweat, blood, tears, and growth over the last 14 years.

Rebirth is painful but fucking essential!  

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OH, HELLO!

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OH, HELLO!

Since last week my re-introduction. I thought it fitting to just come here and say these 5 words.

I HAVEN'T FORGOTTEN ABOUT YOU.

But this year has taken me like a little rag doll in the mouth of some designer dog and jostled me gently and not so gently. It was time for another wake up. For more of the illusion to fade. It required inner resources I didn't know I had. Words that seemed to come from nowhere, and ultimately time.

So here I am popping my heap once again. Heart forward and ready to again be of service for the whole. In the time I was away I was doing a lot of shedding (which I will share some of really soon) and CREATING. The old made way for a lot of brand new ideas of how to radically serve women and men who are eager for transformation and more illusion to fade in their own lives. Guess what happens when illusion fades? You get to access more of your super powers. 

So stayed for (teaser) a brand new look over at TGM, an updated manifesto, some new programs, a retreat, and more. 

Thanks for hanging in there with us!

 

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Girl Gang Hangout: Twin Flames

It's that time again!

Girl Gang Hangout Vol. 3 Twin Flames

I discovered Lacee from Soulful Love on Youtube and was immediately drawn to her light, her knowledge on Twin Flames, and her personality that bubbles over! 

I knew I wanted to connect with her and invite her to our 11-11 Girl Gang Hangout, where we will discuss all things love. Her specialty is twin flames. If that is a new word for you. Join us and find out more. 

Join us tomorrow! We will be doing a Live Google Hangout on Youtube at 1:11 pm tomorrow. Here is the link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPF_soUN8M_uodlFaLHO9yA

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Ask The Oracle // Relationship Oracle Card Readings

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Ask The Oracle // Relationship Oracle Card Readings

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Relationship Oracle Reading // 5 Card Spread + Healing Activation

Hi, friends. Being in Oracle school while simultaneously getting a slew of new oracle decks + doing readings for events and with as well as for friends has inspired me to offer fans of The Girlfriend Manifesto relationship 5 card oracle readings. 

About The Reading

Looking out in the world you would be lead to believe that relationships are doomed. Women's Rights are being threatened; and the main perpetrators are men. The very same men in our lives, our neighborhoods, our churches, our very own houses. Divorce rates are high. Mens and women's roles are being polarized and synthesized by certain balding presidental hopefuls. But you know another story, a higher dimension of thought and belief. You see the men in your life shifting. You FEEL the DIVINE FEMININE PULSING BETWEEN YOUR THIGHS. You see the inner fires lite by Kali. You see your outer world crumbling. You are sensing this tender new space. But you must die to the old. Release. Let go for soon you will take flight like the Phoenix. You know heaven is possible and it's right here; right now.

This reading is for you. You are maverick. maven. illuminated. juicy. goddess. self caring. tired of your own bullshit. full of love, and hate, and confusion, and perfection (all at the same fucking time). you feeel your feelings and release. continually releasing. grounded. alive. real. 

The Details

  • Video or Audio session recording of my reading for you
  • A healing activation affirmation to balance the energies of the reading
  • Harmonious* Donation to me here (*Paypal donation for the reading)
  • Upon Donation you will receive an email promptly asking you a series of simple questions
  • After questionnaire is recieved expect delivery of reading in 24-48 hours

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Ayesha's Favorite Things // TGM Recommendations

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Ayesha's Favorite Things // TGM Recommendations

It's been way too long since I shared what is rocking my world with all of you! Here are a few things that I love! 

Podcast : Reality Bytes

The official blurb: "REALITY BYTES is a new show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by best friends Stephanie Beatriz (Brooklyn Nine-Nine's Rosa Diaz) & Courtney Kocak (writer on Amazon's Danger & Eggs)... COMING 9/20 to an iTunes near you." 

Why I love it? I know from following Stephanie on Instagram this show is going to be funny, uplifting, irreverent, and give us an insight into what many women previously on shared confidentially with the BFF's. Time to come out of the closet and hear about it all realtime. Excited to listen along. You should subscribe here.

Healing Modality : EFT

"Emotional Freedom Technique is a free, accessible healing modality that most anyone can do to experience emotional health and rapid healing." - Ayesha

The Official Blurb: Emotional Freedom Techniques is a relatively new discovery and a fast-evolving treatment within the field of Energy Psychology. Often referred to as "Psychological acupressure", the technique works by releasing blockages within the energy system which are the source of emotional intensity and discomfort. These blockages in our energy system, in addition to challenging us emotionally, often lead to limiting beliefs and behaviors and an inability to live life harmoniously. An EFT treatment involves the use of fingertips rather than needles to tap on the end points of energy meridians that are situated just beneath the surface of the skin. The treatment is non-invasive and works on the ethos of making change as simple and as pain free as possible. Explanation from http://www.theenergytherapycentre.co.uk/

Why I love it? The beautiful fairy like creature in the video above lead me and hundreds, if not thousands, of people through a tapping session at Burning Man. Tapping had been a modality I have been familiar with and used over the last few years. But doing tapping with Sonya really changed my view point as to how fast you can shift and move energy. It's a modality that most anyone can do to experience emotional health and rapid healing. If you are interested I have a pretty sweet freebie to give you. Reach out and tell me something you would like to experience and I will send you a sweet lil' gift. 

Book Club : I Couldn't Just Pick One...

  • Colette Baron Reid : Uncharted // The Journey Through Uncertainty to Infinite Possibility. If you are a born adventurer like myself going into Uncharted territories is par for the course. According to Colette in her new book it is also a necessary component of discovering the next version of yourself. The place where your big dreams live and where you will discover more of yourself. Colette breaks down the process of losing sight of the shore into digestible bites. She has beautiful way of taking complex spiritual ideas into something we can all understand and benefit from.
  • Nancy Levin: Worthy // Boost Your Self Worth to Grow Your Network. If saying the word Worthy feels as good to you as it does me. Then reading this book will change you in ways you may not imagine. I believe Nancy has create something similiar to how the Desire Map rocked so many hearts open. The time has come to embrace you innate worthiness and Nancy will be your guide and trusted friend. A must read and a must do! 
  • Brian Andreas: Still Mostly True or Something Like Magic or anything he has ever touched...like ever! If you have a short attention span but love magic in burst he is your dude. Forgive any way in which that may have taken away from the magic that he imbues with his drawing pin and his words. He is magic though and through! Do yourself a favor and check out any of his work. At the very least follow the trail of magic he leaves on Instagram. 

 

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