Attitude = Direction

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion. ~The Dalai Lama

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion. ~The Dalai Lama

Two of my major life lessons, that I'm continuing to grown within are... to be more compassionate and my walk in peace. 

When I find my thoughts going way left and starting to creep towards negativity...I have practiced to immediately switch my thoughts and even my words to the opposite...which include positive thoughts and words which also includes compassion.

I truly believe that not reacting and ignoring when it comes to something that would normally cause me to react, has truly allowed me to grow in so many ways. Reactions would include: allowing something to get me upset to where I'd say something I would later regret, saying something hurtful to someone else or even myself, thinking something negative that would make me sad or worried, etc. 

For myself I use to feel so drained after arguing with someone and trying to "defend" my point; arguing is such a waste of energy in my opinion. Physically I use to get a would come over me after I would get so upset and have some serious arguments and fights with others. It was an awful feeling, that left me so tired and sad. That is my past and only good feelings from here on out. I vowed to myself to practice holding my tongue and to think before I speak. 

 I'm by no means saying that I don't share my thoughts or opinions when I may not agree with something/someone. I choose to agree or disagree, letting the other party aware of my view. I listen to their view for sure, not letting it control me and my feelings...not taking their opinions personally. Which I use to do a lot, which I've learned is only my ego. I've also learned that our ego's play a part in our feelings and emotions, which at times comes from others thoughts and opinions and we allow it to control us. 

That ego is a lesson within its self. I plan to tackle that one day and truly get a hold of it and a deep understanding of how the ego plays a part in every aspect, and every detail of my life. 

Ignoring any negative vibe or energy, words, emotions, etc...that is brought my way in any form... I have found has been better overall. It has created a new path and direction for myself. It has given me a sense of peace and focus. It's like I can see and hear clearer than I have in the past. Your brain can get so cloudy when you open the door and let anything in. 

Also with ignoring the negative or not allowing it to affect me, is also giving compassion to the person that may be delivering the negative energy. 

Not knowing what someone may have went through that day, yesterday or in their past that could play a part into how they may be acting or treating others. That moment of awareness, a change of thought and maybe even my attitude, has helped change the direction of a moment, a day and my life.   

Peace and Compassion are a part of me.  

What helps you to be more at peace, with yourself and others? 


Shanda FergusonComment